What If There Was Nothing To Defend?!
Spoiler ... open your heart and there IS nothing to defend!
As I write this article, I am working with my EQ Gene Key … 64.5 … The Shadow of Confusion, The Gift of Imagination, and The Siddhi of Illumination. In our Devoted container, Hayley is guiding us so beautifully through our Golden Path, with the wonderful Retreats, and the most delicious questions in workbooks that go along with each sphere.
And oh, the questions here in the EQ are just brilliant!!!
Here’s what Richard Rudd, the creator of the Gene Keys, says about the EQ in the Venus Sequence course …
The Upside of your EQ – Defense or Dance
As you bring deeper awareness into the patterns of this Gene Key in your life, you will find … that you will begin to drop your defences in relationships. Dropping your defences is not the same as dropping your boundaries. Whenever we feel emotionally threatened, we contract into a defensive pattern that we learned in our childhood. … Figuratively speaking, we begin to want to dance.
(This is just a small snippet, if you want to know more about the Venus Sequence, or the Gene Keys in general, you can check out their website here.)
So, here goes with the delicious questions … why don’t you take some time to sit with these, sit with your journal, and see where your contemplations take you?
What if there was nothing to defend?
Oh, the freedom there would be. The liberation, the trust.
If I trusted myself, if I trusted my path, my beliefs, my truths, then there would be nothing to defend. People could attack me all they like, but my open heart would just let their arrows of derision or disrespect, just fly straight through me, not touching me, not even grazing me! They’d just be a breeze passing through me.
If I believe in myself, I don’t need to defend my position. And this is not an arrogant, “I’m right, you’re wrong” situation. This is just me, standing in and by my own truths, allowing other people to have whatever beliefs they want, even if they contradict my own. Their beliefs are not my business!
Maybe they attack me because they are unsure of themselves? Whatever their motivation, it’s nothing to do with me. I do not need to defend myself, if I am being true to myself, if I am being my real, authentic, natural self. There is simply nothing to defend here. I can just relax, let the rigidity slip away.
What if the unconditional love you were desperate to experience already LIVED INSIDE of you?
There have been so many huge lessons for me in this Gene Keys work but finding out that unconditional love for myself DOES actually live inside me is one of the most fundamental. It’s been a great shifting of tectonic plates that has revealed this to me.
Working with my Purpose and Radiance Gene Keys (48.3 and 21.3) really did help me to build core stability. And my Core Stability IS love. Unconditional love.
My Purpose Gene Key taught me/teaches me every damn day that I AM inherently worthy of love; I AM deserving of love. No matter what! No matter what bad choices or wrong moves I made or make, I deserve my own unconditional love.
I cannot allow beliefs or thoughts that begin … “I will love myself when ____” or “I could love myself if _____”.
Only by declaring … “I love myself unconditionally!” can I truly tap into the wealth of resources that live inside me. Putting conditions on my own self love is like capping the well of my creativity, my compassion, my own goodness.
For I AM a good person. I don’t need to put conditions on myself.
As I wrote that last sentence in my journal, I felt a great tension release in me. I felt my whole torso … my chest, my throat, my shoulders, my neck, my back … relax, settle. My breathing evened. And I smiled.
I AM a good person! I have so much love in me and I want to share it. I want to light little fires everywhere that will ignite self-love in others.
Imagine a world where everyone loved themselves unconditionally!
Imagine a world where every single person was able to let down their defences, because they knew that they walked in a field of love!
That is the world I want to live in!
And by dropping my defences, I get to move closer to it with every step I take. By loving myself unconditionally, I get to move in that field of love and who knows what little fires my sparks of love might start?!
Who knows the lives I could change by simply moving in my own field of unconditional love?!
Who know what impact I might have by simply believing I am worthy of love?!
What if your worth could never change from its complete purity, no matter what anyone else ever said or how anyone else ever treated you?
Oh my goodness, what freedom there would be for me in that belief! What opening up could be achieved, if I had no fear that others’ words or actions could deplete my worth. I’ve been in the diametrically opposite paradigm for huge chunks of my life, a paradigm where I have allowed other people to systematically chip off pieces of my perceived worth; where I have allowed their shadows to frighten me into believing I was worthless.
Life is so different when you understand the universal truth that in every heart there beats a pulse of pure love and worthiness.
That we ALL are inherently and purely worthy (even that person who hacks at my worth, they are worthy) is a truth that this inner work has taught me. We are all born with pure worth, and that newborn, untarnished soul lives inside us still. We may have obscured her with Shadows, with false beliefs, but she’s still there.
That girl of 8, who saw fun and adventure, awe and wonder, everywhere she looked, she’s still inside us. Would we look at a newborn, or at a little girl, and think, well, she is not worthy of love?! No, we wouldn’t! And it’s only years of obfuscation and false narratives that make us believe we are not worthy now.
I will reach into my heart and take the hand of that girl who is full of awe and wonder, and I will let her show me just how damn worthy I am.
How would you behave and communicate differently from that place?
Oh yes! I surely would behave differently! With nothing to defend, and with unconditional love and pure, untarnished worth beating in my breast, I would be fearless in this world. I would be brave. I would be free to be completely myself at ALL times. I wouldn’t hide my true self out of fear that she may not be acceptable.
I would not doubt myself.
I would trust myself and life.
I would know that the right thing will happen (even if I’m not sure what that right thing will be!).
My path will be clear.
And I will be having some fucking fun, frolicking in the river of life. Diving and leaping, resting and loving, laughing and bursting with joy.
I would behave like a woman in love with life and with herself … because that is who I would be!
